#ForHolly: Safe Spaces

As part of our ongoing campaign #ForHolly, today we want to talk about ‘safe spaces’. These are rooms, available in many pharmacies and some banks, which are there for people who are suffering abusive behaviour.

We don’t know if Holly knew about safe spaces, or if she would have used one if she did, but in her memory, we are working with her mum, Annette, and the Lincolnshire Domestic Abuse Specialist Service, to try to reach the people who might be in need of one.

Holly was 26 years old when her life was taken by her abuser. He was manipulative, controlling, jealous, suspicious, and invasive. He would check on Holly constantly and monitor her messages and search history. This would make it very difficult, and indeed dangerous, for Holly to call a support line, or search online for help. This is why safe spaces exist, and why they are so vitally important.  

They offer a safe space, away from the prying eyes of an abuser, where you can research and think about your options, and find help and support. Although your abuser may be monitoring and controlling your movements, there is always an excuse you can give for getting away from them to visit a pharmacy – picking up a prescription, getting some paracetamol – making the visit less likely to raise their suspicion. 

In the words of Holly’s mum, “We, as a family, are asking and encouraging anyone living with domestic abuse to seek support and tell someone. There are services out there who can help victims find the happiness and freedom they deserve.”

Find your nearest safe space.

 

#ForHolly

This release is part of our campaign #ForHolly in which we, together with Holly’s mum, Annette Bramley, and the Lincolnshire Domestic Abuse Specialist Service, are working to raise awareness and promote help and support for domestic abuse. 

Please see other previous releases in our #ForHolly campaign: 

Campaign Launch 

Clare's Law 

Red Flags 

Lincolnshire Domestic Abuse Specialist Service