In memory of Ilona

This is Ilona Golabek.

The details of her murder are deeply distressing, shocking, heart-breaking and brutal. She wanted to end her relationship with her partner and he ended her life, while her three-year-old daughter slept. There is no sense that can be made of this irreversible tragedy. There is no justice for a child left without her mother.

Kamil Ranoszek was sentenced for her murder on Friday, but this release is not about him, nor is it about the despicable details of how he murdered her and what he did with her body.

Ilona’s case is domestic violence at the most horrific end of the scale. But there are people, disproportionately women, who are enduring behaviour today from an abusive partner. Jealousy, suspicion, rage, control; this is not love.

So here are some things we want to make sure that everyone knows about.

SAFE SPACES – available in pharmacies where you can access a phone and advice, in safety, away from your abuser.

SILENT SOLUTION – if you need to call us and speaking would put you in danger, don’t speak. Press 55 when prompted, and we will know you need us.

CLARE’S LAW – also known as the domestic violence disclosure scheme. If you are worried your partner is a risk to you, we may be able to give you information about their past that will help you make a decision about your future. You can also apply under this scheme if you are worried about a relationship that your friend or family member is in.

EDAN LINCOLNSHIRE, a registered charity, helping anyone suffering or fleeing from abuse, available on 01522 510041.

National domestic abuse HELPLINE on 0808 2000 247.

Or, if it's you hurting others, to get help with your behaviour, call the RESPECT LINE on 0808 8024040.

You can find out here about our commitment to tackling violence against women and girls.

Rest in peace Ilona.